Do You Have Post Traumatic Stress Or PTSD?

There is a lot of talk in the news these days about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Who gets PTSD? How do they get it? Why do some people have this disorder and some seem to “bounce back” from trauma? Is there a gene that predetermines a person? Could it be hereditary? What is PTSD? What do you do about it? The questions and answers go on and on.

In trying to understand this issue, it is important to distinguish post traumatic stress from the disorder. Everyone who experiences trauma also experiences post traumatic stress symptoms. It is normal to be hyper vigilant, to have nightmares, to relive the event and to experience triggers that bring the trauma back to your mind. This is the brain’s natural way of dealing with trauma. In fact, it is such a natural response that if you don’t have at least one or two post traumatic stress symptoms, it wasn’t trauma.

Post traumatic stress becomes a disorder when the trauma is so severe that the brain can not process the event. Our bodies are so magnificently designed that the only thing that we cannot process is the threat and/or the sight of death coming at us. The natural symptoms that are a product of the brain coping with what has happened become magnified and overwhelming when  no healing is taking place. The brain only knows one way to heal and will repeat these tactics with more and more severity in an attempt to process the trauma and move on.

Post traumatic stress symptoms are our natural Band-Aid. They are there to help you to deal with what has happened to you, so that you can move on with your life. If your arm is blown off a Band-Aid is not going to help you. So someone who has experienced a traumatic event, may have a few nights of nightmares and not being able to sleep but ultimately find that things to go back to normal. The disorder (PTSD) will cause someone to not sleep for weeks and months and years at a time.

Trauma symptoms will keep you vigilant, but gradually you will be able to relax. Having PTSD means that you're always vigilant, night and day. It never turns off. Reliving the trauma and what you have experienced, in most cases, helps you to deal with it effectively so that you can move on with your life. Those who have PTSD relive their trauma 24 hours a day -day in and day out.

 In essence, the DISORDER part of PTSD is like living with a broken record that repeats the same line over and over again. So post traumatic stress symptoms, which are normal and very necessary to the healing process, enable you to get past your experience. PTSD occurs when the trauma is so great, or when the groove in the record is so deep, that mentally there is no way to cross over to the other side or to move on.

If you've experienced a trauma and are having symptoms it is always best to get help if you can. It is very difficult to deal with trauma by yourself. If you're experiencing symptoms that are so severe that they are consuming you, taking over your life, and your sanity; if you feel like you've become someone other then the person that you used to know, you may have PTSD.

What Is A PTSD DIagnosis?

What does a clinician look for in diagnosing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? Are there any “telltale signs?” How do you know if someone is faking it?

In addition to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual’s formal criteria, there are certain things that a clinician looks for when making a PTSD diagnosis. Some initial symptoms of PTSD include being re-traumatized repeatedly due to intrusive thoughts and involuntary recollections. This means that the person replays the scene, or scenes over and over in their head whether they want to or not. This can be uncontrollable and it makes the person feel the same feelings of the event. 

  Reliving trauma brings up the same powerless, helpless, and terrified feelings as if the event were occurring in the present. This is such a powerful symptom that it can be overwhelming. Imagine living the worst moments of your life over and over in your head and not being able to turn that off.

  Nightmares and PTSD go hand in hand. Sometimes a good night’s sleep is 2 to 3 hours and then the nightmares kick in. When you’re not sleeping for days and weeks at a time, your body does not have a chance to repair itself and your mind has no time to rejuvenate. People who have PTSD are horribly sleep deprived, which really wears you down quickly. 

  People who have PTSD have a high startle response. This is the jolt of adrenaline that goes through you when you are surprised. The catch .22 is that ANYTHING can startle someone who has PTSD, sending them through the roof at any given moment. 

  Some people experience a high degree of dissociation, or spacing out. It is very hard to stay in the present, and most people involuntarily relive their trauma over and over again when they are dissociating. 

  Triggers, again, an involuntary response, are episodes in which someone is reminded of an aspect of their trauma. Sounds, smells, sights, and thoughts all lead to triggers and bring to the surface a memory that was previously repressed. Triggers can be shocking and can provoke very negative reactions. 

  A good clinician will evaluate each individual on his or her specific experience and how the individual processed the event, or reacted to it. No two people are alike, so how one person deals with trauma is not necessarily how another deals with it. Likewise, not every person who goes through a traumatic event will get Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. 

  Qualified mental health professionals are finding that it takes time and some in depth discussion with the patient in order to properly diagnose this disorder. The VA currently gives a patient about 25 to 30 minutes with the next scheduled appointment often months apart. This is the least effective way to diagnose this disorder, as it takes a personal look into the event and into the perspective of the patient to make a proper diagnosis. 

  Can you fake having PTSD? Maybe for a little while, but not for long. PTSD has such specific traits and responses that any clinician who has worked with those who have this disorder longer than a few months or so would be able to spot someone who is faking symptoms from a mile away. People who genuinely have PTSD can communicate that to someone who is trained to understand this condition in a way that is genuine and unmistakable. 

Reliving Trauma

Sometimes it seems like we are forever replaying the most traumatic events in our minds. Hardly a day goes by that someone who has PTSD doesn’t think back to the events that permanently transformed their lives forever. At times, it seems as though the trauma happened yesterday because our images are so vivid. Other times, it is as if we are looking a scene in a movie- something terrible that happened to someone else and we are merely voyeurs to this terrible scene. It’s easier to dissociate and detach from the hell that we have been through than it is to face it directly. Like it or not, we relive those moments without much warning.

The memory of these events is always with us and will always haunt us, even if we live to be 100 years of age. Ask any vet who served in Vietnam and they will tell you that time is the only healer for a fragmented memory and a horrific traumatic event. These vets will also tell you that while it never goes away, it does get better. Time and distance are the only things that allow our fragmented memories and emotions to heal. Time and distance and how we process the trauma.

The brain is such a phenomenal mechanism. It is always attempting to shift our memories into long term storage- always attempting to categorize the horror and make sense of it all. It is normal to relive trauma when you have PTSD. Reliving trauma is actually a part of the healing process, although it is painful. It is painful to spontaneously remember forgotten details that can be triggered through sounds, smells, or other means. We experience shock when we recall an aspect of trauma that we had completely blocked out.

We can not prevent this phenomenon from happening, because we have no control over what our memory can do. So, what can we do when we are transported back to a place in which we were helpless, alone, and afraid for our lives? What can we do when we feel he same horror and fear as we did in the most terrifying moment of our lives?

We can act, or we can react. To act, or to be proactive in our healing, means that we go with the memory and allow it to unfold as it will. It means that we take a deep breath, or several deep breaths, and confront the demon that is responsible for all of this mental hell. This can be shocking and scary. To react means that we allow our fear to consume us and we begin to panic or to dissociate from reality. To react means that we allow our adrenaline to take over and we go into fight mode. To act, or to take a proactive stance means that we take control. We take a minute, calm ourselves down, and go through the memory with our mental battle gear on. To react means that we relinquish control to fear and anxiety. We allow the trauma to once again take over and fight against it.

 Ultimately, whichever we choose is up to us. We can choose our plan of action. We can decide that when these events happen, we will take back our control by not allowing the symptoms of PTSD to overwhelm us. It is not as easy to be proactive as it is to react to certain triggers, but it is the way to healing.

PTSD And Planning For The Future

Failure to recognize or plan for the future is a very common Post Traumatic Stress Disorder symptom. Why do people who have this disorder have such a hard time acknowledging events that may take place in the future and plan accordingly? Making and carrying out future plans does seem like a logical way to conduct your affairs, but this is a very big problem among those with PTSD.

The answer lies in what PTSD truly is. People acquire this disorder because they have been terrified and rendered helpless in a moment in which they believed that they would die. They have seen death very close to them. This is the diagnostic criteria and defining factor with this disorder. An event in which anyone sees the end of their life coming to an end, an event in which they do not believe that they will survive, robs them of their sense of trust and safety. It takes a certain amount of faith to believe that there will be a tomorrow. A sense of trust and safety are required in order to believe that future plans will actually come to pass. People who suffer from PTSD have lost these concepts and have a markedly foreshortened sense of the future.

Some people who suffer from posttraumatic stress can manage to plan a day or a week in advance, but every one who has this disorder has a threshold of what they can comfortably look forward to. Some people can’t even foresee tomorrow or the next day and this is why we live our lives solely in the present.

If you are in a relationship with someone who has PTSD, you know how frustrating it is to make plans for a week or two in advance and then watch them fall through. Anxiety has much to do with this phenomenon. Depression can contribute to the inability to follow through with pre planned occasions. 

You have likely noticed that we don’t become excited about events until about 5 minutes before they actually occur. Many people who have PTSD do all of their Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve because in our minds, the event has to be hours away in order for us to trust that they will occur. This makes no logical sense to someone who does not have this disorder, but it is extremely normal to someone who has PTSD.

Being in a relationship with someone who has PTSD can be challenging and confusing at times. Sometimes you have to use a lot of critical thinking, common sense, and flexibility. At times, it is hard to know what will be the most helpful and what will make a symptom worse for them. Ultimately, education is the key to dealing with PTSD. Once you know what PTSD really is and what to expect, it is not too difficult to personalize a solid plan that is specific to the person that you love. Belief in a foreshortened future can be overcome, as can many common post traumatic stress symptoms. 

What You Need To Know About Depression, Anxiety, and PTSD

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can ruin your quality of life if you let it. It is an emotional roller coaster that leaves you and those who are close to you mentally drained. This is partially because the symptoms of PTSD are severe, alarming, and can be at odds with one another at times.  To make matters worse, some of these symptoms make no logical sense to someone who does not have PTSD.

If you have PTSD, you know that depression and anxiety are a big part of this disorder. This means that you are up, and then you're down. You can't sit still, and then you can't seem to get out of bed.  Anxiety can include pacing, having racing thoughts, acting compulsively, having panic attacks, and the list goes on. Anxiety can creep up on you when you least expect it. You can be going on about your business and all of a sudden you start to hyperventilate for no particular reason and then it’s off to a full blown panic attack. Severe depression can bring you down so low that you may attempt whatever you believe is necessary to end the pain. Depression can bring you down to a state of hopelessness that's very difficult to overcome. Some people cut or otherwise mutilate themselves. Those who suffer from anxiety, chronic depression, and PTSD are at a very high risk for attempted suicide. It is very common for someone who is experiencing severe depression to cry for long periods of time, to stop eating, to stop communicating with others. At some point, they call this "failure to thrive", which can lead to death. So, the constant push and pull of anxiety and depression in someone who has this disorder alone is enough to seriously complicate relationships with others as well as just mentally torment and exhaust the person who has PTSD.

It's no wonder that many people receive a misdiagnosis of either chronic anxiety or depression. Posttraumatic stress encompasses both of these conditions. Since PTSD involves anxiety and depression in severe states, it is also not uncommon for those who have this disorder to receive a misdiagnosis of personality disorders. This is because of the constant oscillation between the two.

The catch .22 is that the drugs that are commonly prescribed for anxiety don't do much to alleviate depression and vice versa. Also, some of these pharmaceuticals produce depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts as side effects. Obviously this is counterproductive and it can be dangerous for the person who is already suffering.

If a clinician is treating someone exclusively for depression or for anxiety, and fails to make the connection to PTSD, he or she is only treating one component of the disorder. This is a potential nightmare for several reasons. The clinician may believe that the dosage needs to be adjusted if it is not immediately effective and some of these drugs take months to become fully effective. He or she may prescribe one or more medications. It takes time to evaluate whether these drugs are working correctly. Also, it's a process of adjustment. So while the meds are being "adjusted", you're emotionally all over the place. Mentally, you're up for a little while and down for a while. Can you see how this process can be especially dangerous for someone who has PTSD?

Depression and anxiety are two symptoms of PTSD, so it is especially important to work with a clinician who is qualified to treat all three disorders. Anxiety disorders and depression disorders alone are enough to make someone profoundly miserable.

Being in a relationship with someone who has one or the other disorder can be a huge challenge and this is very taxing to the family environment. If you are in a relationship with someone who has told you that they have this disorder, you have to prepare yourself for these and other symptoms to appear. There is a strong connection between PTSD, anxiety, and depression that has to be addressed in a manner that is appropriate for the individual as opposed to a “one size fits all” model. A trained mental health professional and a strong support system are essential in the management of these symptoms when they become too severe for the person to deal with.

If you are dealing with symptoms of PTSD or know someone who is, I urge you to pick up a copy of my book PTSD: WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT.  It was written by someone who has this disorder for those who are suffering now and their friends and families. It will give you concrete answers and solutions that you can use to lessen these awful symptoms. 

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder- An Emotional Roller Coaster Ride.

PTSD is an atrocious disorder. You never know when the symptoms are going to creep up on you.  One day, things seem ok and the next day you’re bombarded with memories that send you straight into anxiety and panic attacks. Some days, you’re just going about your business and all of a sudden, you are flooded with intrusive memories or flashbacks. This sets the tone for the rest of the day. You can see something, smell something, or hear something that reminds you of your trauma and you become dizzy and dissociated for a few hours or for a longer period of time. Some people go to bed and stay there for days. It’s just too overwhelming. Some become angry and lash out at everyone around them. Some people cry for hours. Your reaction to this symptom is a personal reaction that reflects your style of coping with the strain of this disorder. 

Some people have a nagging sense that “ something is wrong” or that they have forgotten something. A lot of times, feelings like fear, anxiety, and sadness come over you without a specific reason or trigger. Other times, you can’t feel anything and you can’t decide whether that is a good thing or a bad thing. Emotional numbness is a big part of this disorder and this occurs when you are on an emotional overload at times.

Having a full and unexplainable range of emotions to no emotion at all are all a part of having PTSD and this can be very frustrating and hard to deal with. The bottom line is that fighting the emotional roller coaster ride is like trying to stop the ocean with a cotton ball. The trauma that you’ve experienced also traumatized your emotional system, so it may take some time to find balance. You may wonder if you will ever heal from your experience at times. The answer is that you will heal, but this requires time and for you to proactive about your healing. Acceptance is the first step toward dealing with this symptom.

When you find yourself becoming overly emotional, take a minute to evaluate where these random emotions could be coming from. Can you pinpoint an exact reason? Is it related to your experience? Or are you experiencing emotions for which you have no explanation? Is your emotional response appropriate or inappropriate to the situation? If that it the case, you are likely having a symptom of PTSD. Sometimes these symptoms don’t seem to make much sense to us, but it is how we deal with them that make all of the difference in the process of healing. 

  

There are some psychological techniques and tricks that help with having a wide and varied range of emotion as well as feeling numb and generally locked up inside. Ultimately, you need time to adjust and you need time to physiologically heal from trauma. If you want to learn more about how to handle the symptoms of PTSD, I have written a book entitled PTSD: What to do about it when you don’t know what to do about it. This writing will give you specific steps that you can take in managing the disorder and it’s debilitating symptoms. It was written for those who suffer from this disorder, those who are in a relationship with someone who has this disorder, and those who need information and a solid plan of how to deal with the symptoms of PTSD.

Could Playing Tetris Become A New Treatment For PTSD?

I was reading an interesting study from Oxford University the other day that reported that people who have PTSD and play Tetris have fewer flashbacks. I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and this makes perfect sense to me. I think these guys are on to something.

The study involved 20 people who did not have PTSD. They were shown a violent movie and then divided into three groups. One group did nothing, one group played Tetris, and one group played a trivia game. The results were quite amazing. The group that did nothing experienced an average of 12 involuntary flashbacks. The group that played the trivia game experienced an average of 6 flashbacks. The group that played Tetris experienced an average of 4 flashbacks. Imagine having PTSD and being able to overcome or lessen your flashbacks by playing Tetris.

This makes solid sense to me as one of the recognized and highly effective treatments for post traumatic Stress Disorder is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, or (EMDR). EMDR is an information processing therapy that involves proper clinical evaluation and training of coping skills. You should never try to do EMDR alone or with someone other that a therapist. It’s very harmful to do that to yourself.

The similarity is that memories or thoughts are processed as the therapist directs the patient’s eyes to move back and forth. Rapid eye movement combined with other physical stimuli and the awareness of memory and sensation are the keys to getting the brain to categorize fragmented memories and sensations. As I said, do not do this by yourself.

 People who have PTSD typically have intrusive thoughts and fragmented memories surface when engaging in repetitive tasks. The researchers at Oxford report that playing Tetris, planning how the blocks will fall and watching them fall into an organized pattern may be just as beneficial as doing EMDR therapy.

If you are in therapy, why not talk to your therapist about this theory and see if he or she thinks that there is sound logic behind this? I know that I intend to talk to mine about it.

Is it possible that a very effective Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Treatment can be found in the form of a Nintendo game? It is starting to look that way. The research and theory is certainly solid enough. If playing Tetris will lessen a PTSD symptom like experiencing involuntary flashbacks, I think the guys at Oxford have hit a home run. 

How To Help Someone Through A PTSD Trigger

People who have Posttraumatic Stress Disorder have triggers that can lead to panic attacks and to negative symptoms arising. A trigger is a very real occurrence that can throw someone out of balance and cause more anxiety and stress. If you are with someone who has PTSD and they are triggered, how can you help them to process the experience and lessen the symptoms that are sure to follow?

A trigger is a personal reaction to some kind of stimuli that reminds them of their trauma. A trigger can be a sight, a smell, a sound, or even a thought. Because people who suffer from PTSD have an abundance of fragmented memories, a trigger ultimately is a reminder of an element of trauma that may have been forgotten. It can be a reminder of any aspect of the trauma, so it is almost impossible to predict when and where they will happen. For example, an assault victim might have triggers that relate to the size, shape, race, or other physical traits of the assailants. These are common triggers. Then there are triggers that are specific to that person’s experience, such as a certain song that may have been playing in the background, or a certain smell of soap or cologne. Triggers, whether they are common or personal, lead to panic and to other symptoms like flash backs, dissociation, or rage and a wide range of emotions.

If you are with someone who has a trigger, there are some things that you can do to greatly reduce their stress. One of the most effective things that you can do is to remove them from wherever they are. If you are inside, go outside. If you are driving, pull over and go to a restaurant, a park, or go sit outside with a frappuccino.  Changing your location helps to put them in a different frame of mind by engaging them in something else. This is very grounding.

Ask them if they want to talk about it. They may or may not want to do into too much detail and might be very emotional. They might be shocked and need some time to process the trigger, so may not want to talk about what they have just experienced. Either way, let them know that you are there and that they are safe. The event is over, even if it feels to them like it just happened.

Be flexible. A trigger can bring up very negative symptoms and the person that you are with might need to be alone for a while. Don’t insist that they do things that they aren’t capable of at that time. If you are shopping together, it’s probably time to go get lunch or go home. If you’re at home, it might be time to go for a walk or make a short trip to the corner store for something.

Finally, if plans have to be altered quickly, be prepared for the guilt. It makes us feel incredibly guilty when something like this happens and you may find the person that you are with apologizing all over you in short order. The worst thing that you can do is to say things like, “… and I was looking forward to this, too.” That’s just cruel. Instead, find the flexibility and the grace to accept that these things happen. Be supportive and above all, be genuine.

Dealing with a boyfriend or a girlfriend who has PTSD can be challenging and confusing at times. You have to use a lot of critical thinking, common sense, and flexibility. At times, it is hard to know what will be the most helpful and what will set the person off. Ultimately, education is the key to dealing with PTSD. You have to get into his or her mindset, in order to relate and communicate effectively. Once you know what to expect, it is not too difficult to personalize a solid plan that is specific to your relationship and to the person that you love. For more information, check out my book PTSD: What To Do About It When You Don’t Know What To Do About It. There is an entire chapter dedicated to Triggers and how to handle them. 

PTSD and Combat PTSD. Is There A Difference?

Post traumatic stress disorder affects everyone differently. The disorder has common symptoms that include intrusive thoughts, nightmares, dissociation, hyper vigilance, hyper arousal, flashbacks, and hallucinations. This is a stress disorder, so those who experience PTSD also experience an abundance of anxiety, depression, and stress. PTSD is PTSD whether it is acquired though child abuse, experiencing a disaster, or through combat.

That being said, combat vets go through psychological training in order to effectively deal with being in a war zone. They are trained to be hyper aroused and to be hyper vigilant. In a combat zone, if they expect to stay alive, these mental states have to be in place 24 hours a day. Survival depends upon a soldier using hyper vigilance in order to decipher danger and respond instantaneously.

When you combine a hyper aroused state of mind with a traumatic experience, such as a skirmish in which people die or are disfigured, this experience becomes ingrained in the psyche, causing PTSD. When a soldier is on high alert, experiences that surge of adrenaline, and is in a situation in which their lives are on the line, that is a clear set up to acquire PTSD.

So, is there a difference between what some consider to be “ Regular” PTSD and “Combat” PTSD? The answer is yes. And no. Combat PTSD differs in that a vet is trained to have the response that those who have acquired PTSD through other means obtain through their experience. An assault victim becomes hyper vigilant due to the assault. A child abuse victim gradually adapts a state of hyper arousal due to prolonged encounter. A soldier hits the battlefield with that pre programmed hyper vigilant state of mind.

Ultimately, PTSD has common symptoms and typical human reactions regardless of how it was acquired. PTSD is PTSD and there is no cure for this disorder. The degree to which any human reacts is specific to their experience. Some may have a higher degree of hyper arousal and some may have a higher degree of another symptom such as dissociation.

I have PTSD and have not been in a combat zone. Not many civilians who have PTSD have experienced terror on the prolonged basis that I have. Therefore, my startle response was on the same level as a soldier’s response at one time. The intensity and feelings are the same. The way in which PTSD was acquired was different. Ultimately, it’s all the same.

How PTSD Can Change Your Personality And Perspective

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can take over every aspect of your life. In addition to the damage that it does to your relationships and at times, your career, PTSD can rob you of your happiness, sense of humor, and creativity. It can steal your zest for life.

Many people who suffer this disorder report that they no longer recognize themselves. They see their reflection in the mirror and of course, they recognize their reflection, but who they are and what they see are two different images.  Some people lose their ability to laugh and make jokes. It is as if their sense of humor has completely died and they are rarely able to deliver a single humorous line. Other people lose the ability to concentrate on anything for more than a few minutes. Complex problem solving and complex tasks can be more difficult for someone who has PTSD. Some are so severely affected by fear and disorientation that a simple trip to the grocery store is too much for them to handle, especially alone. They start to hyperventilate and then go into panic mode in the cereal aisle. Some can become so overwhelmed that they have to leave the store.

Some people become angry and that anger is with them 24 hours a day. They feel full of rage and out of control at times- not knowing what will set them off next, but knowing that they can’t always control their reactions. Some people cry and cry until they pass out or exhaust themselves into staring at the wall. Either way, some cry until they are emotionally drained on a daily basis. These are all extreme reactions to the symptoms of this disorder, but they are also very common reactions. Most people who have PTSD have experienced most or all of these symptoms on some level.

PTSD will change every aspect of your personality. Suffering from posttraumatic stress doesn’t mean that something scary happened and now the person merely feels jittery and unsure. Biologically, the brain is working very hard to process experiences that it can barely comprehend; let alone categorize. Because of the severity of that event, the brain is physiologically altered. Some areas of the brain that are responsible for memory and emotion become severely damaged. Complex neurological pathways are distorted. The body either repairs them or forms new pathways and this can lead to changes in temperament, personality traits, preferences, and perspectives. 

 This is why nearly everyone who has PTSD and their friends and families say that they are no longer the same person. They are correct. They don’t feel the same. They don’t think the same. They are not the same person and may never be that person again. They have to rediscover who they are, which can be a long process.

Healing from PTSD does not mean that you return to your former mental self unchanged and unscathed. A big part of healing means that you discover and develop new traits, talents, interests, and perspectives. This can be very tough to accept without having gone through a proper grieving process first. Once you accept that your personality and the way that you relate to the world are now coming from a different perspective, your brain will initiate the rest of the healing process.

If you take a positive view of this concept, you may find that you enjoy getting to know yourself again. It is a progression that takes time, observation, and patience. Think of it as a mental journey to rediscover who you are and how you roll. Along the way, you could find that your sense of humor has merely been hiding and your creativity and zest for life are not all that far away.

Surviving Trauma - Denial Is Futile.

When you’ve been through a traumatic experience, the psychological effects can become immediately evident or they can be delayed for a period of time. As a survivor of trauma, it is important to keep a few things in mind. There are specific stages of trauma just as there are specific stages of grieving and other healing processes. Whichever stage you are in depends upon how well you are using coping skills and are effectively healing from your experience.

Some survivors continue living and acting as if nothing has happened to them only to find that one day, it all comes crashing down on their heads, so to speak. Some immediately begin a grieving process and are able to deal with their trauma in a healthy manner. Some trauma survivors have a delayed onset of symptoms because the trauma was so severe that the brain has to find ways to process the event. This type of trauma is extreme and likely leads to PTSD or C-PTSD.

Trauma psychologically changes a person, but it physiologically changes a person, too. The body tends to overproduce stress hormones. Adrenaline production rises to roughly twice normal levels and neurotransmitters such as serotonin may not be high enough to combat the adrenaline. Sometimes people develop rapid heart rates, high blood pressure, and diabetes. Some notice that they hyperventilate more, which can lead to panic attacks. The brain produces nightmares in an effort to process distressful memories. It is very common to experience intrusive memories and have flashbacks. External sources can trigger negative memories and feelings that are related to the trauma. These are psychological events that occur without our permission and at times, without warning.

Denial of a traumatic experience is a common and rational way to react, but it leads to more psychological problems down the road. When in denial, a person’s will and body are at odds about the experience. If you go through a traumatic experience and are in denial, you should know that the body will do what it has to do to protect itself. The body usually wins. For example, dissociation, a common PTDS symptom is produced when the nervous system is overwhelmed. This is the body’s way of conserving energy and calming the body out of a negative mental state.

Denying the severity of how a traumatic event has affected you does not change the facts and inhibits a healthy healing process. Although it is difficult to deal with psychological changes, the degree of denial that you may experience directly relates to the degree of coping skills that you have learned in order to deal with these changes. And, as we all know, acknowledging the problem is the first step toward positive change.  

PTSD: Why can’t I get it together?

Many people who have post traumatic stress disorder ask themselves, “ What’s wrong with me?” “Why can’t I get it together?” “Where did I go?”  “What’s happening to me?” This is perfectly normal and you are not alone. PTSD is a debilitating disorder that will take your mind for a whirlwind ride. Dissociation, a major factor in PTSD, can include confusion and fragmented thinking. It can include physical feelings of floating, of feeling like your head is larger than it is, or of feeling shorter or taller than you are. I know that this sounds very strange. Dissociation is very strange. When PTSD sufferers experience dissociation, they feel disconnected from others and sometimes from themselves. They withdraw from society and from others. They withdraw into themselves and can experience time lapses.

 I have PTSD, so I know what a frightening feeling it is when you tend to space out frequently and relive trauma, even though you don’t want to. It is frightening when you realize that you have little to no emotion about the things that you used to care very deeply about. It’s also frightening when you feel emotionally numb and no longer have that spark for life. These are all parts of dissociation.

Post traumatic stress disorder damages the limbic system, which is our emotional system. When humans experience trauma that is so great that they believe that they will not survive, it does damage to many parts of the brain. The nervous, or limbic system reacts as if it is in a state of shock and tends to shut down somewhat. This is why we dissociate and cannot feel emotions as we did before. Also, when the limbic system is overloaded by stress, it causes us to dissociate in order to conserve energy or to relax.

Dissociation is a sign of having too much stress. Since PTSD is a stress disorder, this is a revolving cycle. While there is no cure for PTSD, there are ways to manage stress and ultimately dissociation, but this takes time. If you experienced trauma recently, dissociation will occur frequently until your brain has had time to adjust to the shock of that event. When your memories are triggered, you may dissociate as a way of dealing with that uncovered memory. Even though this symptom can be overwhelming, it is the body’s natural way of protecting itself and psychologically dealing with tremendous strain. To become upset about dissociation is counterproductive. This will produce more stress and that will trigger panic and more dissociation. 

There are some psychological techniques and tricks that help with dissociation as well as relaxation techniques. Ultimately, you need time to adjust and you need time to physiologically heal from trauma. If you want to learn more about how to handle the symptoms of PTSD, I have written a book entitled PTSD: What to do about it when you don’t know what to do about it. This writing will give you specific steps that you can take in managing the disorder and it’s debilitating symptoms. It was written for those who suffer from this disorder, those who are in a relationship with someone who has this disorder, and those who need information and a solid plan of how to deal with the symptoms of PTSD.

You Do Not Have To Have Anxiety Just Because You Have PTSD

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is commonly referred to as an anxiety disorder by those who do not understand the distinction. It is true that anxiety can be a symptom of PTSD, as can depression, but stress is the operative word. For example, when a soldier is shell-shocked during combat, his reaction is to stress and not to anxiety. Stress and anxiety are two diverse concepts that are often used interchangeably, but when you break these two down, they are quite different.

If you have PTSD, You do not have to live with anxiety if you adopt the proper perspective and apply some mental strategy. To stress something is to put pressure on it. You can stress your words by putting emphasis, or more weight, on them. A stress fracture is produced by increasing the intensity of any activity too swiftly. Common stressors include driving in traffic, dealing with the job, raising a teenager, and keeping a roof over our heads. These things put pressure, or stress, on us.

When you have PTSD, you have a very low tolerance to stress. In many ways, the concepts of good stress and bad stress merge and it all feels like the same degree of stress. That's why some PTSD'ers go through the roof for seemingly no reason. The slightest stressor can be that spark that ignites an outburst. This is part of why PTSD is a stress disorder.

Anxiety is the product of worry. The type of thinking that will give you anxiety is the kind in which you obsess about your stressors. If your thoughts run along the lines of, "What if this happens, what if that happens...." you're going to become anxious. Prolonged fixation or attention to a worry causes it to grow and multiply. The next thing you know, you have two worries, then five, and so on. When you allow your worry to take over, it will produce anxiety. Before long, you are so anxious about everything that you're hyperventilating, wring your hands, pacing, and the list goes on.

If you have PTSD, you do not have to live with anxiety. Since anxiety is a condition that we, as humans, bring upon ourselves, you can choose to live without this symptom. The process is fairly simple, but it takes dedication and focus. The best way to alleviate anxiety is to do some simple soul searching and some proactive mental work.

Identify your thoughts, remembering the difference between stress, or pressure, and worry. What are you fretting over? Are you thinking in terms of "what if" scenarios?

Write them down and evaluate them. As you read them, ask yourself, "How can I solve this?" Or "What can I do about this?" If the answer is that there is nothing that you can do about this worry, it is time to let it go. The size or seeming importance of the issue should not matter if there is truly nothing that you can do about it.

If you can not solve the issue at the time, focusing on that issue will serve you no purpose. When you notice that you are worrying, stop what you are thinking and focus on feeling good instead. This takes practice, but you can do it if you work at it.

No one worries themselves into PTSD but those who suffer from PTSD can worry themselves into an anxiety disorder, which really adds unnecessary, additional stress to the equation. If you're proactive about catching your thoughts when they go in the direction of worry, you will learn how to experience more relief and more positive feelings. This will help you to heal and to grow in a direction that is more mentally sable and healthy.

One useful thing to do with dissociation

I was thinking about dissociation, a common PTSD symptom, this afternoon and how it can be both a blessing and a curse. Those who have been through a traumatic event use dissociation as a means of dealing with reality. Dissociation can also “happen to us” when our stress level rises beyond what we can handle. It’s actually a biological response that is built into our brain that conserves energy and allows us to relax.

 The type of dissociation that most people experience is voluntary. This can be as simple as spacing out at your desk for a few minutes- taking a mental vacation to the islands or to your favorite place. Daydreaming is a form of dissociation. We daydream about sex or what we will do this weekend. We daydream about what we would like in the future. So, can we use dissociation in a positive way to heal and to better ourselves?

I think we can. Severe dissociation can protects us from feeling horrible feelings like fear, anger, hopelessness, pain, and the like. It’s a very powerful tactic that we use to numb ourselves. We often find ourselves dissociating on purpose in order to avoid something negative, so why not turn that into something positive?

When you have Post Traumatic Stress, it’s easy to feel negative feelings. We seldom feel positive feelings. I have worked very hard to gain control of unwanted bouts of dissociation and I did so by using grounding techniques and by deliberately “spacing out” on things that make me feel good, like goals that I’m working to accomplish or fun events that I’m looking forward to. It’s not easy and it takes a bit of practice, but once you get into the habit of directing that energy to something positive and productive, you’ll begin to feel a lot better instead of being so down all of the time.

Has Your PTSD Turned You Into An Energy Vampire?

Do you feel like people sometimes run away from you or avoid you? Do you notice that people talk to you for a few minutes and make a hasty excuse to get away? Have you ever found yourself along in a room at a party or noticed that people tend to slowly leave the room that you are in? Do people seem to avoid eye contact with you and keep physical contact to a minimum? Are you the loneliest person that you know? If so, you may be an energy vampire.

An energy vampire is someone who unconsciously siphons positive energy away from others. An energy vamp will leave you feeling more negative than you were before the interaction. We all know someone who makes our stomach do a little dreadful flip when we see them walking our way. These people make us feel tired and drained. Being in the presence of an energy vamp gives you an overwhelming sense that you need to get away.

Having PTSD can turn you into that kind of a person if you are not aware of how your negativity affects others. Since PTSD is a very serious disorder, that includes depression and anxiety, the symptoms can be overwhelming. People who suffer from PTSD really do need help and a strong support system. The problem occurs when you constantly give off negative and needy vibes that affect how the people around you perceive and react to you.

There are several factors that contribute to being the type of person that suctions energy from others. One of them is a lack of having a strong personality. Since PTSD absolutely affects your sense of self, your self esteem, and your personality, it is very important to evaluate your own individuality. Do some soul searching and ask yourself what your personal likes and dislikes are. What is your personal moral code? When your friends are talking or when you are watching a news story, ask yourself what YOU think about the topic. Don't adopt the commentary of others as your own thoughts. Be proactive and formulate your own opinions and judgment. Strengthen your own personality as opposed to mirroring others. If you find that you act one way in the presence of one person and a different way around others, you need to evaluate that and decipher who YOU are.

It is very common for someone who has PTSD to struggle with this concept because at times, we really don't know who we are anymore. There is so much mental chaos going on that we lose ourselves. This is why so many people who have PTSD are diagnosed with personality disorders and put on all types of medication concoctions that compound the problem. Healing from PTSD means that we figure out who we are now. Who we were before is gone and we are definitely not the same person, but we still have our own personalities that have to be rediscovered and reinvented. This is the first and most difficult step if you want to stop suctioning other's energy.

Another way to begin to stop suctioning the energy of others is to recognize and respect personal boundaries. Just as you respect physical boundaries, there should always be a barrier between your energy and the energy of someone else. This means that when you begin to feel negative or needy in the presence of another, you stop and redirect yourself to a more positive frame of mind. PTSD is a very selfish disease in that we rarely take the time to focus on others much less how we are affecting them. Refocus yourself on anything that you can think of other than yourself, your needs, and your negative feelings. Change the conversation to a lighthearted topic or simply ask a question about the person that you are speaking with. Make it a goal to catch your negative energy before it leaks out to others and project a more confident and positive energy.

An easy way to cut your energy vamp tendencies off at the pass is to focus on staying in the present during every interaction. This can feel like "fake it till you make it" for awhile, but you will quickly notice a shift in the way that others interact with you, if you practice this. It can be very difficult to stay in the present when you have PTSD, but you can do it with practice. When we mentally drift away, it looks to others like we are not listening or don't care about what they are saying. This causes a lull in the conversation that is uncomfortable and makes the other person feel as though they must keep up the conversation alone or remove themselves. Most people will excuse themselves at this point, leaving you to yourself.

Finally, the absolute easiest way to put an end to zapping the mental and emotional strength out of those around you is to focus on giving your positive energy to others. There is a time to give and there is a time to take. When you are interacting socially with others, it is a time to give. Show interest in others by asking questions about themselves. Comment positively on the things that they are talking about. Be mindful of how much you use the words "I" and "me" and transform that into more "you" and "your". People love to talk about themselves and the things that they are interested in. When you begin to practice this, you may be able to keep this up for just a few minutes. The more you do it, the more natural it will become.

If you find that people have a tendency to excuse themselves in your presence, you may be projecting an aura that feels like you are stealing their positive energy and draining them. Having PTSD does not mean that you become a buzz kill to everyone around you. It does not mean that you have to feel like a social leper. PTSD is difficult to overcome, but you can change your energy in the presence of others with some realization, focus, and practice.

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